As this year comes to a close, I find myself observing the custom of reflection. It’s actually something I do regularly - maybe even a little o.c.d. at that. In fact, I think I drove my dad nuts at times with the thoughts I had to share with him throughout my youth (he always listened, just a lot of shaking his head)

Nonetheless, it has been a year of epiphanies and I enjoy sharing the wisdom with whomever may find it to be valuable.

1) The phone never rings for you. If you want to be a success, you have to toot your own horn, border-line brag, and convince people (truthfully) why you are the BEST at what you do. Keep your eyes and ears open and be prepared to be where those opportunities are and chase them down.

2) BE THE BEST. It’s not enough to work hard. Your efforts must produce tangible results. If you’re going to make the “best” widget, then you have to be your own worst critic and keep raising your own bar. I can guarantee the competition is.

3) Be open to ideas. You are not the only one with them. Nurture creativity and listen to all ideas. You may think they’re bad or poorly timed, but sometimes the goofiest things are the most successful (pet rock, anyone?) Of course, this doesn’t apply if you’ve all ready had the idea, tried the idea, and/or learned it to be a terrible failure.

4) Be ready to tell people about you and what you do. People who find you interesting, clients, supporters, etc. want to know and may be giving you an opportunity to be convincing. The big break can sometimes come from people who just want to be “that person who gave me a break”

5) Be interested in people! We’re social creatures. Ask about their lives and care about the answers. If dogs can smell fear, people can smell “phony” I can guarantee the more you try to care, the more you will develop the capacity.

6) Be careful. There are a lot of sycophants, spies, “friends” who smile through their teeth, and those who simply want to pick your brain to promote their agenda. Listen to your instincts on these people. It can also be called your conscience, gut, or muse, but it’s usually dead on.

7) Be grateful. Your opportunities, successes, victories and all other positive experiences are more-often-than-not the result of someone else. An attitude of gratitude is a MUST if you want that grace to continue.

I used to be a liberal with my recommendations.

Or perhaps I should say lack of.

In the spirit of being friendly and accommodating, I’d be happy to support any direction, style or medium an aspiring artist would like to work with for their art.  My teaching style is very nurturing, developmental, therapeutic and as such, I don’t like to deter the courage or adventurous spirit of a fledgling.

And there is some truth still to that because I’ve seen some amazing work using the most frustrating materials.  On the other hand, I’ve seen folks work with expensive tools and supplies and fail miserably.

So in my latter years of instruction, I’ve found that sometimes you CAN blame your failure on the paint brush.

And sometimes, the fault is yours.  A good instructor will guide to the right conclusion.

There is an element of customer service in education.  Preventing frustration by recommending the right tools for the skill level of the student. 

And there should also be a strong sense of customer service when one goes to buy materials - or to buy for the artist in their life.

Whether during the holidays or beyond, here are some questions to ask when shopping for someone else, or for identifying what kind of artist you may be:

1) Is the pursuit as a hobby or part of a career?  Also, what is the endurance or patience level of the artist like?  Investigating a medium is great fun but many treat it like a new year’s resolution and fall short.  Don’t go the whole 9 yards and waste money on an expensive setup for an impulse.

2) For the professional or serious student, the preference for a certain brand may all ready exist.  There are premier brands for everything, but economy doesn’t necessarily mean poor quality.  When in doubt, ask them! 

3) Kits are nice for the undecided, but some are kid-oriented quality and others are professional grade.  The price should be a clue, but look at what’s inside the box too.  Sometimes package deals combine both and you’ll find that the element the artist will enjoy the most is in shortest supply.

4) How-to books are fun - if the artist likes to read.  Many wax philosophical and ramble on about uninspiring approaches.  So make sure the how-to addresses the style the artist is attracted to. 

5) Buy from a specialty store.  Big box retailers with an arts and crafts section will not know how to direct you like a store that’s dedicated to the pursuit.  Also, the staff of a specialty store is likely to have first-hand experience with various products.  If you’re looking for clay advice, ask for someone who dabbles in sculpture - you’ll be glad you did.

In my experience, the store I would recommend locally for pricing, service and quality of selection is United Art and Education (and no, I don’t own stock) I am careful about whom I recommend for service because of how it reflects upon me.  But I have never been disappointed with United Art and Ed.  If you subscribe to their mailing list (e-mail or snail) they even send coupons!

For photography as an art form, Sunny Schick is the best resource in town - and they’ve never failed me either.  In fact, once they convinced me NOT to buy something in their store because of the direction I was planning on going with the project.  (That’s integrity!)

Regarding materials, there are many different medium, but here are a few brands that have never let me down:

For all things drawing or coloring: Prismacolor

For drawing paper: Strathmore

For acrylic paint: Liquitex

For pastels: Grumbacher or Rembrandt

In the categories of sculpture, the fabric arts, and some elements of painting (such as canvas, brushes or watercolor paper options) much success is dependant on the effect you want to achieve and therefore the correct tools for the job are important.  I’ve found brand to be irrelevant.

Happy shopping!

My parents were always supportive.  I don’t remember a time when they discouraged my dreams or suggested I develop a “fall back.”  Consequently, I’m living the dream of a professional artist.

They were also very good about giving me a variety of experiences.  I had the swimming lessons, little league, piano lessons, cub scouts, etc.

My eclectic upbringing continued to incorporate a strong faith, a love for family, and a value of things intangible - they didn’t raise a boy with expensive tastes.

And as I reached college, I remember thinking that with all the interests they had fostered, I would only be able to dedicate true development to one of them.  Such was the way my perfectionist mind worked (and still does to a degree - if you’re a creative, you get this.)

So at the crossroads my confidence wavered a bit.  I had always known that I wanted to be a professional artist and now I was HERE.  Where you learn how to be what you want to be “when you grow up”*

(*The ironic thing here is the human brain isn’t fully developed until age 25 - about 3 years after most kids graduate.  One of the last things to finish “cooking?” Commitment!)

So now what?  I stayed the course - with no regrets.  I still keep the other interests alive.  But ultimately what feeds my soul is the idea that I’ll leave this world a better place than I found it.  Passing the cosmic tests, influencing the young and giving peace to the aged.

But all idealism aside, I find myself at those cross roads again from time to time.  Sometimes it’s a peaceful time for reflection, sometimes is a dark night of the soul.

But a life without examination isn’t worth leading, right?  We might as well be a cow in a field blissfully ignorant of its fate.

I write this in hopes that it will challenge you to reflect as well.  And that the happy problem will be a choice of fantastic direction A and fantastic direction B.

But in all things, reflect, pray, and savor the decision. 

I don’t know of a company or corporation that doesn’t have a dress code.  In fact, some positions are known by their dress code or uniform.  It’s part of the branding process.  It isn’t even a business perspective - have you ever seen a man dressed all in black with a white collar and NOT known what he was? (for the atheists, the answer would be “a priest”)

Another advantage of uniforms are that they hold the mystique to others as well as certain behavioral parameters.  Police officers come to mind - there are strict codes for what actions and behaviors are allowed, tolerated or even encouraged depending on whether or not the officer is “on duty”

But there is another side to being in uniform.  And my message today really only applies to those who are true “company” - they may or may not own the business, but they’ve bought into it - all the way. 

And I’m not really addressing workaholics here (besides, that’s a pretty silly term anyway - is there even such a thing as “workahol”?  I think Webster’s needs to get involved with that one.)  What I am talking about are those people who have strong work ethics and morals.  They have a sense of balance and they aren’t afraid to put full value forth to benefit their employer.

Have you ever found it difficult to relax after work?  Do you find yourself gravitating towards business-related tasks as a bad habit of sorts - or as if you’re running on automatic pilot?  Did you notice that you haven’t changed your clothes yet?

This is a psychological condition that affects many who have established a certain momentum in their schedule.  The uniform, the brand, the persona, etc. is also a state of mind that becomes you.  At the risk of being corny, your “work mode” is in many ways a different person altogether.

The solution is to change your clothes - in fact, have certain garb options that fit ONLY into “relaxing clothes”  This habit holds true at the beginning of your day.  If you’re not ready to start work, don’t start dressing the part too soon.  The switch comes on once that last lace or button is done.

The necktie in particular has often been called the “corporate noose” (ever notice the similarities?)  Sometimes that is all it takes to restrict the blood flow and turn off any relaxing thoughts you may ever have for the rest of your shift.

So take a moment to reflect upon your state of mind, your environment, and make the mental note to arrest your unconscious habits.  Once you’ve made the change (literally) you’ll find that you truly have “clocked out for the day.”

I love Halloween!  As an artist, I find it inspiring.  My mind fills with ideas for décor, atmosphere, and the ever-exciting “what will I be this year?”

Of course I’m allowed to enjoy it as an adult – it makes for great role modeling for my children.  They too become infected with my zest for the holiday and all the imagination-building fun. 

So in the spirit of creativity, I have the following design-on-a-dime costume ideas for kids-of-all-ages:

1)      Skip the mask:  Masks are fun but can also be expensive, hot and hazardous.  Anyone who remembers the plastic “blinders” with the single rubber band will agree.  If you couldn’t see or breathe very well, at least you could look forward to the rubber band breaking and snapping you in the eye.  Parents, try makeup instead.  A little rouge and you have instant clown.  Some well placed mascara and voila – instant diva (or princess) (Tip: Avoid grease paint unless you like scrubbing tired cranky dirty children for hours.)

2)      Oh the many joys of garbage bags:  plastic is a great insulator and trash bags come in more than one color.  They can also fit over just about any layered undercoating.  Uses:  Togas, robes, even capes if trimmed carefully.

3)      Go cerebral:  A good costume isn’t always obvious.  Sometimes it’s more fun to have a conversation piece.  Ask the kids to make up an obscure super-hero like Captain Happy – dress them all in yellow and let them canvas the neighborhood laughing.  Or put a small chair on their head and go as “gum” (get it?)

4)      Size can be everything:  Fit more than 1 kid in an oversized sweatsuit and you’ve got 2-headed monster!  Dad’s clothes and a little extra stuffing and you have “mini-me” or your home-made “Hulk.” Try the opposite effect with undersized clothing and be “The Incredible-growing-child” (a little faux 5 o’clock shadow will enhance the effect.)

5)      Wrap n’ roll:  T.p. your child and instant-mummify.  Some well-adhered holiday paper and you have “The Walking Gift.”  Save the empty rolls for horns, fake noses, spikes, anything you can imagine.

When it’s all over, you’ve spent some quality bonding time in the pursuit of free sugar.  You could even say you’re making a political statement (“old-fashioned”, “timeless”, “economical”, “just like I wore when I was his/her age”) You may even be surprised by some of the ideas your child can come up with. 

Enjoy it while you take your inspector’s cut of the candy.

The price-gougers, the cost-cutters, the bargain-basement operators.  Sounds pretty good to the average shopper doesn’t it?

But have you ever purchased something that didn’t live up to the bargain?  That cheap pair of shoes that you had to replace 3 more times in a year, the bulk jar of ketchup that you used just as fast as the regular size, the generic brand electronic device that (”oh by the way”) doesn’t have all the features as the real deal.

The same holds true with services.  Of course everyone has budgets and as service providers we want to be sensitive to those budgets.  Unlike Congress, when there’s no money for something - there really ISN’T a way to pay for it.  And when you’re hanging out your shingle, you don’t want to out-price everyone.  The market can only bear so much.

But the other side of the coin is some things just cost what they cost.  I’ve never known the price of gold to be up for a haggle.  It may rise or fall, but does that have to do with one person’s decision (conspiracy theorists need not comment here!)

So when you’ve achieved the highest degree, the most experience and can do things the best, you’re worth your investment.  Are you a ”Nike” or a “K Swiss”?  Are you a “Coke” or a “Faygo”?  Are you a “Rolls Royce” or a “Chevy”?  All are good brands and I’d take any of them if they were offered.  They simply cost what they cost. 

The hardest thing you may ever have to do is take pride in your skills and abilities and even tell a potential (or current) client “I don’t need your business” - or even fire them! 

If you’re doing your best and “you’re worth what you’re worth”, you’re dealing with business that will never respect you anyway and (even if they go with a cheap competitor) it reflects on their ethics - they’ll get what they pay for:  Low quality, suspicious business practices (maybe even illegal) and ultimately you dont’ want to be associated with any of that!  Trust me, they’ll be replaced with the kind of clients you want (and most likely will not only be able to afford you, but never think twice about doing it right.)

Ultimately, the things that shouldn’t be open for negotiation are your character and integrity.

I’m writing this one from a creative’s perspective, but it could apply to anyone who works hard and believes in the work that they do.

When you’re “living the dream”, whatever that dream may be, it’s very easy to trade off the important things in your life (health, personal growth, fitness, loved ones, etc.) as a price.  The saddest part is that you don’t have to.  It’s all about balance and maintaining a sense of mortality.

When we’re young, we’re unconscious. We’re limited only by our imagination.  Reckless abandon and an invulnerable sense blind us to the big picture.  It’s why we equate age with wisdom.  Slowing down causes us to reflect more (have you ever seen a memoir by a 20-year old?)

The trouble is that the momentum of youth can often carry over into the rest of our life - and along with it high blood pressure, anxiety, heart disease, and all other sorts of nasty.

Ironically, the good habits and achieving balance also follow the same advice and direction of an efficiency expert.  If you work hard but also play hard (or rest hard) then you’re going to be sharper, stronger, healthier, more productive AND have all the other priorities in your life maintained (loved ones, your faith, smelling the roses, etc.)

In the grand scheme of things, you’re just a blip on the timeline.  Recognize that life was here before you and will carry on (”some how”) without you.  Savor your time and make it last because you’ll be judged by how you lived (and eternity is a loooooong time)

It’s an ironic and saddening human characteristic that many creatives face - Backlash.

You receive a lot of support and encouragement to develop, achieve, succeed and then face (sometimes) the same people and their green-eyed monster.

To put this into further context, while the backlash can come from anywhere it’s unlikely to come from anyone who truly cares about you.  That being stated, you also must realize how very special you and your abilities are (while staying humble, of course!)

It’s truly rare, given the grand scheme of things, to find someone who a) Knows what they want to do with their life; b) Actually sets out to achieve it and; c) Achieves it!  To meet someone who’s “living the dream” can sit uneasy with many who haven’t discerned the above.

The backlashers probably won’t actively undermine your career like some arch-enemy in a comic book, but they won’t necessarily sing your praises either.  If they were once your biggest fan, they may start to realize that they’ve been living vicariously through you and that they haven’t amounted to a hill of beans.  Such an epiphany is shocking.

The backlash could come from your competition as well - this speaks to business ethics which, sadly, not enough people or corporations follow.

So how to deal? 

1) Stay the course:  Obviously your clients like you and what you represent.  Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. 

2) Educate your clients on your abilities, any new developments or products.  They may be looking for “something different” and just not know you do that too.

3) Treat every good client like you would your own family.  Develop loyalty and compassion.  When you’re able to forge even a quasi-personal relationship, clients will be less likely to want to change.

4) Be sensitive to budgets when necessary.  Sometimes the decision is out of the hands of your relationship - even long-standing.  Sometimes contacts change.  Turnover is inevitable.  If they’re all about “who can do it the cheapest” though, they’ll always look for a way to low-ball you - you don’t need clients like that.  Some day they’ll learn you always get what you pay for.

5) Keep walking the high path:  Always say the nicest (honest) thing you can about anyone you may be associated with.  You never know who-knows-who and how they may be judging your character.  If your reputation is strong, anyone who tries to tarnish you will only do themselves the dirt.

I like to be ideal and dismiss the notion that anyone would fail to see the big picture - there’s plenty for everyone (especially in our society) and there’s room for all sorts of styles, talents, abilities, and skills.  However this is sadly not the case.  Lean on your support network, keep your focus strong and your conscience clear. 

Against backlashers, success is the best revenge anyway.

To be an artist means that you’ve probably received one of the following:

1) A galvanization of adversity and are too stubborn to quit (like many many many success stories, by the way) 

2) A strong network of friends and family who have always said “you can do it!” and helped you believe just that.

3) A combination of both (like yours truly)

I wish to speak to “#2″ because it is perhaps the most powerful and yet the most fragile.

Whether it is a multitude of loving supporters or just a precious few - even 1 - It’s important to remember that their support is unsolicited, inspired and honest.  It takes a lot of energy to be positive and even more to share those feelings with others.  If it’s not reciprocated, one gets tired and eventually unlikely to continue acting as such.

So the message?  Say “thank you!”  Tell them you appreciate their support.  Stay humble.  They’re most likely the foundation that helped you achieve greatness in the first place.  Without them, it’s equally likely you’ll crumble.

Like many artists, I’m very sensitive to my environment.  Who I interact with, how the weather is, what’s playing on the radio and so on, are things that affect many of us creatives and non.  To recognize these influences and make a mental choice about how to deal with them helps keep focus, channel inspiration, and even turn a frown upside down.

But then there are rainy days, maybe even flooding your basement, compiled with a car overheating, coupled with a fight with the Mrs., exacerbated by the devaluing of society, adding insult to injury by the dismissive nature of non-creatives (or whatever combination piles up on you sometimes) and you’ll think “THAT’S IT!”

“What’s the point?  I’m taking my ball and bat and going home!  I give up, I’m going to find a mindless job, and work until I die!”

It’s easy to lose perspective.  It’s important to stop and count your blessings.  For example, the poorest person in America is still richer than most of the rest of the world. 

But success is a relative concept, isn’t it?  With a progressive society, comes progressively “raising the bar” - whether it’s done for us or we even do it for ourselves.

So what to do when you’re “full?” You “don’t want to play anymore?”

Hope and faith are a big key to overcoming adversity.  Our character is shown by how we handle pressure.  Leaders panic, but don’t necessarily show it.  Victors still fear, but know that success is worth the struggle.

And it’s important to have a good support network around you - Mom, friends, spouse, kids, whomever you can rely on to say “everything’s going to be all right.  Here, have some chocolate!”

But is that enough?  How do you truly overcome - spirit, mind, body, all of it?

Like our adversities which seem to pile up when we’re at our weakest, so too must our fight encompass all the areas under attack.

So, develop an “adversity emergency” kit and keep it handy.  Here’s one formula:

A c.d. with your favorite song to play on repeat

A big bar of chocolate

Your favorite scene from your favorite comedy movie on a DVD for instant playability

All the lights are on in the room you’re in

You have your best friend/mom/grandpa/etc. on speed dial

A bubble blowing kit

A collection of those squishy stress ball things.

Make sure you’re wearing comfortable clothes

Ignore or shut off e-mail/business phone/anything distracting

And do the above in any order OR all at once!  Granted, it may confuse the heck out of whomever is on the other line of your cell phone, but DO IT.

When depression attacks, fight back.  Recognize your limitations and “break the glass”

And your formula may be entirely different from above, but always have a good one - not one you’ve tired of.  Keep it original because your challenges are going to be coming from all forms and areas, I guarantee it!

GO ROCKY!!